“FOMO” or what I plan to do vs what I actually do

So I’m sitting here at the end of a three day weekend, trying to get myself caught up on unpacking after two and a half days out at camp, cleaning, getting myself prepped for my work week, and analyzing the ‘to do’ list I had set for the weekend and seeing where I’m standing.

Honestly, from that perspective, I didn’t do so good.

My plan for the second weekend in a row was to get some more work done on the writing I had started, try to log at least one decent (to my point of view anyhow) post, get all of my laundry done and my place cleaned up and aired out after being locked up for the last few days.  I did none of that.  What did I get done?  I went out to camp.  I ate well and had a few beverages.  I spent some quality time with the man.  I spent some quality time with the mutt.  I visited and socialized.

So that’s what brings me here, on this absolutely gorgeous (almost 30 degree Celsius again!) day, sitting inside, having to really force myself to get caught up on just unpacking and cleaning the essentials – and writing yet another quick, haphazardly put together blog post for your reading pleasure.  It’s a tad frustrating, I will admit, but looking back at the last few days I regret nothing.  We all need a to do list and goals to accomplish, and yes we have to work on achieving our goals, but sometimes living better means tossing those lists away for a few, so we can appreciate what’s going on around us and to seize those moments and opportunities that come our way.  Which brings me to another point…

By now I assume everyone knows what “FOMO” means… fear of missing out.  People use it to explain why they are so fixated on their screens and devices, poring through and liking other’s photos from their highlight reels.  But what the hell are you missing out on staring at moments that have occurred in the past, documented on another’s facebook wall?  For me FOMO is what I experience when I’m glued to my screen or one of my multiple I-devices and realize that the world is going on around me and I am missing out on the good times I could be having, and the conversations I am missing out on.  Society, you have it backwards!

Fear of missing out.  When you’re browsing through other people’s memories, again, they’ve already happened and are in the past; what are you missing out on?  When you’re looking at pics from an event you weren’t invited to, what are you missing out on?  Honestly, you’ve already missed it.  And sometimes, people are going to do things without you.  It’s a fact of life.  You need to get over it.  I’ve seen many photos of my friends together at events I didn’t attend.  Adversely, they’ve seen many photos of mine and events I have attended with others in which they were not in attendance.  You might take pride in being the first person to like your friend’s latest awesome, witty status update – but you can always catch up later with a bit of extra scrolling.  What IS happening when you’re busy catching up on everyone else’s weekend while yours is still going on?  You’re missing out on the things you could be doing and ignoring the people in front of you.  While you’re busy feeling obligated to ‘like’ and comment on that (usually) yellow filtered pouty bathroom selfie because a close friend posted it (and FYI ladies, yellow is the colour of jaundice, liver issues/hepatitis – if tan is what you had in mind, brown is the colour you’re really looking for), you’re missing out on opportunities to create your own memories that you could then be sharing instead.

So due to a brand new, ‘unfortunately‘ placed cell tower which has effectively knocked out the competitors (aka, my provider’s) service near the cabin, this weekend was yet another weekend in which I had a forced absence from all things electronic, and instead of panicking because I was ‘missing out’ (and having to put my to-do list aside), I managed to indulge in all of the things that my dependence on my electronics would otherwise have had me missing out on.  Did I miss out on 400+ facebook friends status updates and pics?  Yes.  Did I miss out on some likely epic status updates?  Probably.  Did I miss out on liking the latest artsy or fashion forward Instagram posts on my feed?  Likely.  Did I miss out on the ‘Look at me, I’m at a party’ pic that many of my friends would have liked and interacted on at the same time Saturday evening?  Maybe.  But is that to say I was actually missing out?  Did my life stop because I didn’t have a phone beeping, reminding me of the latest update?  Was my weekend made any less because of this?  Of greater importance, do I even care?  If ‘missing out’ meant I was stuck having to enjoy and appreciate the places I went, with the humans (and 4 legged creatures) around me, and enjoying the sights, smells and sounds all around me (and having to ‘like’ others posts a day or two later than when they originally posted them), then obviously our definition of ‘missing out’ requires some reinterpretation.

So, with that in mind, and since I have been too out of touch or occupied to come up with anything further, until I get a nice chunk of uninterrupted time – in service range! – instead of some prolonged post to read through, here are just a few photos of what I have been up to during my radio silence.  This post is meant to be a reminder mostly to myself, but hopefully some benefit to others – when it is reasonable to do so put away your to do lists, step away from your structured schedule, put the device down, close the laptop lid, forget about what others are doing, and stop missing out on your own life!

(Did do some socializing as well, but since I never got permission to post anyone else’s pic, you’ll have to settle for just me, and my sweetie from afar)

 

Author: thebrokegirlsguidetobetterliving

Welcome! I am "thebrokegirl", aka Mandy. And what makes me a broke girl? Being a single income household, living the best life I can alongside my big grumpy dog obviously, but also because I'm not perfect - I'm broke - I'm a work in progress, which is exactly how I want to stay! My passion for writing, research, trying new things and wanting to help and inspire others are what inspired me to start this blog. So what makes me an expert on better living? Nothing! I'm just a girl trying. And what is better living? It's mindfulness, small changes, simple acts, baby steps to help make your day, your health, your environment, your life just that little much better. I'm on a lifelong journey to level up my life, and invite you to share that journey alongside me!

12 thoughts on ““FOMO” or what I plan to do vs what I actually do”

  1. so when I come to office in the morning, it is usually a 1.5 hours drive from my home and mostly same route with everyday mundane activity. I load up my offline youtube library with movies to watch on the road but lately it has been replaced by the FOMO you have experienced. Add to that my fear up death at any point, unexpected. Reason why I look out of the car window with eyes wide open and try to gulp down all I can see at a go. FOMO! 🙂 and it is lovely.

    Lovely photos you have posted. Where did you go camping?

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    1. I love this! I am guilty of also having to remind myself to put the phone down and look up, or even when walking to occasionally stop and take in my surroundings. No matter where you are the view is never the same twice and you’ll never be able to catch that moment again. Good for you 💕

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    2. And I’m sorry I somehow missed the last part of your post earlier! I live in Ontario, Canada, and there is a very large lake here that also extends across the border and into the States that my boyfriend has a cabin on. We spend almost every weekend we possibly can out there 🙂

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  2. By the way, I really don’t know what the blogging etiquette is as I’m ridiculously new to this (as you can see from my blog ) but I feel I should say thank you for following me 😊

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  3. Thanks for sharing this story, I thought it was really interesting. I feel like FOMO makes our free-time more stressful, I think you had a similar experience.. Anyway, I linked this article to one of mine, hope that’s okay 🙂

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    1. Thanks for the read and appreciation! Maybe I’m just old enough that I can scroll through social media and feel happiness for my peers for the adventures and good times they post about rather than feeling envious or upset… I know that I have my own story and life and adventures, and we’re all different, and we all choose to share differently, so I find it easy to keep that in perspective. I have friends that are absolutely beautiful inside and out, and have what I would consider to be full and rich lives, and they’ve told me they can’t scroll through their newsfeeds on facebook because it makes them feel bad about themselves – 30 and 40+ year old women. It kind of breaks my heart. And go ahead and link away! No greater compliment than that!

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      1. I do know the feeling of scrolling though Instagram etc. and being kind of envious of some experiences. Or rather feeing sad not having done the same thing. For me it was helpful to realize that these pictures are not realistic… However it also showed me what I wished to still experience in my own time.

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