The Best Life Advice I’ve Ever Received

We’re all human.  We’ve all experienced our fair share of issues or doubts at times, and have at one point or the other been the sharer or recipient of a little life advice – solicited or otherwise.  Some of these little nuggets are decent and reasonable, some so obvious as to soon have been forgotten, some so off you begin to question how the bearer successfully survives each 24 hour period, and then there occasionally comes along those words that are so completely unforgettable they forever shape who we are.  And we all have at the very least a couple of those things that have stuck with us over the years, that helped to mold us into the humans we are today; things that have shaped our lives or made them better in some way.

You may have taken yours from books, television, friends, a teacher – whomever.  My favourites all came from my family; people who I admire and love, who are liked and respected by all who have the pleasure of meeting them.  One or two may come across a little rougher sounding than they should, but that’s just how we sometimes sound in my family.

“Just ask.  The worse they can say is no.” – My mom.  This has practically become my personal mantra.  You can ask and be denied, and your life will not change for the better or worse.  But what if the answer is yes?


“Just remember, nobody is better than you.  But you’re no better than anybody else.” – My dad.  Whenever I’ve needed it.  A little rough edged reminder that we’re all equal.  And I think about this almost daily.


“If you have to go to the washroom you ask once to be polite and respectful.  If the teacher tells you no, you then get up and go anyway.  If there are any problems, you call me.” – A lesson I learned in grade 1, returning home to tell my father about a poor boy who had soiled his pants in class after being refused leave to ‘go’.  Follow the rules and have courtesy and respect, but do what you need to do, when it is right to do so.  I learned my parents trusted my judgment and had my back and would stand up for me.


“You never, ever start a fight.  But you damn well finish it.” – My dad again.  Don’t cause trouble.  But when it comes to you, stand up for yourself, and don’t let the ubiquitous ‘them’ beat you.  Now that I’m no longer a little ruffian farm girl I no longer take it to mean in the context of physical altercation, but in all other aspects of my life.  I’ve also learned to only engage in those battles worth winning.  If they’re not, then they’re more annoyances than troubles, and are just a drain on your efforts and energy.


“Everybody is replaceable.” – My grandpa (RIP).  It was usually a stern warning against me for the avarice, capriciousness and lack of ambition I *apparently* had in abundance when I was a moody teenage girl.  Since I’m very confident he loved me anyhow, I try to reflect it in all other aspects of my life.  In my personal relationships the other person/s may be replaceable, but so am I.  So if that person is worth staying for, then you need to also work at being worth staying for.  At work there is always someone out there perfectly as capable of, or better at, doing your job, and if you don’t uphold your end of the bargain, they will be.  It also made me conscious of just how precarious our positions and status really are.


“Make the bed as soon as you get up.  You’ll be happier when you come home to it.  Fill the sink with hot water and soap and work on the dishes as you’re cooking.  You’ll have no clean up and can relax after dinner.” – Unsolicited cleaning advice from my mother.  And every time I’ve ever followed this advice, she’s been 100% right.  And still, I rarely do either.


“Go into environmental studies.  That’s the next hot thing.” – My grandpa again, from about as far back as the eighties through to when he recently passed, giving me unsolicited career advice.  Should’ve listened to him.


“We don’t care what you’re doing so long as you’re happy.” – My parents.  All of my life, through to when I, a couple of years ago, asked in a bad winter’s depressive state if they were proud of me.  I once owned a home on the lake, owned multiple boats, vehicles, even a gold fireplace.  I now rent a small apartment, work three less jobs, and am MUCH happier living a more manageable, simpler life.  Being the loving, supportive parents that everyone deserves to have.

Any words of wisdom any of you have ever received and want to share?  Any that have stuck in your consciousness and affect the actions you take and decisions you make on a regular basis?  Any of your own to share?

Author: thebrokegirlsguidetobetterliving

Welcome! I am "thebrokegirl", aka Mandy. And what makes me a broke girl? Being a single income household, living the best life I can alongside my big grumpy dog obviously, but also because I'm not perfect - I'm broke - I'm a work in progress, which is exactly how I want to stay! My passion for writing, research, trying new things and wanting to help and inspire others are what inspired me to start this blog. So what makes me an expert on better living? Nothing! I'm just a girl trying. And what is better living? It's mindfulness, small changes, simple acts, baby steps to help make your day, your health, your environment, your life just that little much better. I'm on a lifelong journey to level up my life, and invite you to share that journey alongside me!

8 thoughts on “The Best Life Advice I’ve Ever Received”

  1. These words of wisdom are very inspiring, great to read.

    I’m trying to live my life by a piece of advice that I can’t remember where I picked up (most likely a Pinterest post hahaha) – ‘at the end of the day, the only person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with is yourself’. Always make me remember to put my own happiness and well being first.

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    1. I LOVE that! And it is so true. I consider myself very fortunate to have grown up with such decent, loving and supportive people around me who always had some sort of lesson to share 🙂 I will be adding yours to my list from here on in! And while I only have a minute here before I have to run again, I look forward to checking out your blog and all those others who have been so kind to stop by either tonight or tomorrow throughout the day. Take care!

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  2. 1) Work hard. A lot of people want a shortcut. The problem is the best shortcut is the long way. Show up and work hard. If you do, you will fall in love with your work..

    As I see it, if you work more hours than somebody else, during those hours you learn more about your craft. That can make you more efficient, more able, even happier. Hard work is like compounded interest in the bank. The rewards build faster. The same is true in your life outside of your job.

    Computer geek Randy Pausch said in his adult life he felt drawn to ask long-married couples how they were able to stay together. All of them said the same thing: “We worked hard at it.”

    2) Try your best to tell the damn truth. People lie for lots of reasons, often because it seems like a way to get what they want with less effort. But like many short-term strategies, it’s ineffective long-term. You run into people again later, and they remember you lied to them. And they tell lots of other people about it. That’s what amazes me about lying. Most people who have told a lie think they got away with it…when in fact, they didn’t.

    3) No job is beneath you. Remember slaves groveling from the dirt helped create The White House. So many people have this notion that they should be hired because of their creative brilliance. Too many are unhappy with the idea of starting at the bottom. However, you ought to be thrilled you got a job in the mailroom. And when you get there, here’s what you do: Be really great at sorting mail. You are making a difference!

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    1. All great advice. And totally spot on. We tend to so often look for the easy way out and there is so much ‘new’ information out there that would lead us to believe there is a magic pill or cure for everything and that we are deserving of so much but without the effort, that some good old fashioned no nonsense advice is always so refreshing. People are only deserving of what they work for. I’ve had entry level positions in grocery stores and I’ve been EA to the head of the world’s very first internet/television (live to air) company, and now work in the justice sector of the government. I valued each job that anyone was willing to give me as much as the other, and worked just as hard at one as I did the other.
      I have to run quite quickly here so can’t give as thorough of a response as I would like, but thank you so much for your valuable input and for reading and commenting 🙂

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  3. Great article. Especially I can agree with „Make the bed as soon as you get up. You’ll be happier when you come home to it.“ It gives me a peaceful and calm feeling to come home and have my place / bedroom in a tidy state.
    My life advices / mindset:

    1. Make no debt. Debt is modern slavery. If you can’t afford it to pay cash down, don’t buy it.
    2. I will fall asleep a better man than I woke up.
    3. The future of the past is right now.

    I wish you all the best!

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    1. I haven’t been around in a while, so apologize for the late reply! Thank you so much! And I totally agree with you, I have been doing the bed making thing routinely as of late, and it has made me noticeably happier and more content when I have been at home. One of these days I have got to tell my mother that she was right 😉 Good for you for also doing so, and for recognizing the connection between a well kept environment and a well kept mind!

      I love your list of advice. Those three deserve a post of their own, and everyone ought to take heed. I was debt free for a couple of years up until recently, where I took on a small amount to cover an emergency. It’s not much, but knowing how much better it feels to not be in it, it feels like a heavy weight that I’ve been saddled with knowing it is there.

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